
Lisa & Lori
Lori Died Suddenly on Sept. 22, 1981
She was 25 years old.
Just a Summary of: Lori’s Story:
I always knew my Sister’s sudden death, that happened decades ago on Sept. 22, 1981 was suspicious.
I had searched for years for the answers to why, which included contacting the police department, and going over the report many times!
Someone had to do this to her, she would not of killed herself! This I knew for sure!
I would sit in my driveway where she lost her life, and look at my house many times over, and say how did you sit here, looking at our families home with your daughter, niece, sisters, and parents sleeping inside, how how could you have done this to us, and yourself?!
Nothing made sense then, and for the decades that followed. However,
now almost three decades later “2009″ the truth has finally surfaced.
I now have the answer I have searched for my entire life since that tragic morning I found her in her 1977 Buick with our father’s handgun in her lap.
I promised her that morning I would not give up until I found the “truth” about what really happened to her. My sister loved life, and her family, and knew we loved her!
She would not of taken her own life. So why did she?
Here is a Summary of Lori’s Story:
My sister moved home, and filed for divorce in 1980.
I am her younger sister Lisa, and we spent most of this time together when
she moved back home.
I was going into the 8th grade that year. I was so happy that she was moving in with us, and that I would have the time with her to spend.
We were very close, Very similar.
Lori was a strong, smart woman, and she was determined to make it on her own!
She worked for the county that we lived in, and was very well liked at her job.
She also made enough money where she would be able to live.
People that she worked with were shocked like everyone else was to hear about her sudden,So out of character death.
The time she lived with us she was doing fine, going to work everyday, and taking one day at a time to rebuild her life. Through out her divorce it was stressful, just as much as expected in any divorce situation. It is a life change.
Suddenly the last month to weeks of her life I noticed that she had changed.
I listened, and I watched her suddenly turn into someone I did not know. I could not figure it out? Why was she acting like this? Saying these things to me? Finding it funny to scare me?
Lori suddenly started to talk about death, and dying!
In which she would included me in her plans and/or ideas
on how I/We could her end her life! (ways She/We could try)
Some examples are as follows:
1. Lori would loop a belt around her neck, and ask me to pull it as hard as I could until she stopped breathing!
2.Lori would ask me to come in the middle of the night, and put a pillow over her face to suffocate her in her sleep!
3.Lori would lay still in her bed, and when she heard me coming down the hallway she would lay still, and pretend to be dead.
When I shook her to wake her up she would not move.
She stayed so still until she couldn’t anymore, and started to laugh out loud hysterically at me, and then would say to me “I’m just joking Lisa, I just wanted to see what it would feel like to really be dead, and what you would do if I really was?!
Then she would go on to say to me, “you don’t have to worry I
wouldn’t really do anything, I’m too chicken!”
4. Lori suddenly changed by saying things to me like “HE” is in your room, closet and going to get you! Will you sleep with me in my room on the floor next to me?
She also would say things that did not make sense like.. see this pin this will pop your face, see this curling iron, this will burn your face! It Never made sense the things she started to say..that was not her!
5. Lori suddenly at times would go from laughing, and joking
about something into a anger,(suddenly she pushed me into a file cabinet, it, and myself fell on the ground) Lori never would hurt anyone, especially me.
agitated, and confused mood. (suddenly she would look at me with sadness in her eyes, and say to me I don’t know why I am saying or doing these things.. I must be going crazy.
6. Something else happened shortly before her life ended in such a tragic horrific way. Lori suddenly became very sick she came down with the flu.
She lost weight, she could not eat, drink, or get up out of bed she was very pale, and weak, frail looking.
I felt so bad I could not help her feel better. I had never seen her so sick before. She could not hold food down and was growing weaker by the day.
7. Lori also suddenly started to fall asleep with her bible on her face.
As if she were reading. praying for help to feel better.
I had to take the bible of her face a few times when she finally was able to sit
still, and take a short nap.
8. Lori’s sleeping patterns suddenly changed as well.
9. The night before she died, I remember it so clear.
Lori kept rocking in our rocking chair that we had in our living room.
She would not stop! She also was talking much faster than usual, and walking much faster as well. When I finally asked her to stop rocking so fast she just looked at me like she couldn’t stop, or didn’t want to. It was like someone was pushing her to rock. I thought it very odd at the time but soon overlooked it because of all her sudden behaviors had been so altered lately that I almost was getting use to the changes.
10. That night my sister’s were staying up to watch the Deer Hunter a movie that came out in the 80′s I believe. They wanted me to stay up also to watch it with them but I was tired, and only made through some of it.
The Russian Roulette camp scene came up. Where each of the prisoners were made to put a loaded handgun to their heads, some chambers were full, some were not.
Each prisoner was made to take a chance when it was their turn. If it was empty they lived. If it was not they died.
Lori made the comment/question of: Do you think if I did that it would work the first time? Then she laughed it off.
Then she started talking about our German Shepherd Dog who was aging.
Lori said what are we going to do with Champ when he dies? then she said well it don’t matter if we bury him the worms will eat him anyway!
Again she laughed.
I went to bed soon after that part of the movie, I was very tired.
Lori came into my bedroom late that night, and stood in my doorway.
She was talking to me, and asked are you awake?
I remember mumbling back to her yes, but was half asleep still.
She looked at the last supper picture I had on the wall, and asked me who was so and so? I don’t remember the name she said.
Then she went on to look at her daughters picture on my wall, and said aww
Isn’t she so cute!
Then the last thing she said to me was “Well I’ll see you in the morning ok?!” and off she went down the hallway, I heard the front door slam as it usually did
behind her around that time of night.
That night Lori was not sad,depressed, crying, or irritable, just sounded so full of life! Energized.
I did not know it then, but that was the last time I would
hear her voice.
That early morning of September 22, 1981 I was getting ready for school.
I went into her bedroom to borrow a shirt of hers, and I quietly asked her if I could borrow it?
Lori did not answer, so I took it, and got ready to catch the bus.
As I walked out the front door down our driveway I had to pass her car,
from a far distance all I could see was the color RED.
My first thought was “here she goes again, She is trying to fool me again, and this time it looks like she used Ketchup!
Well as I got closer, I saw my sister through the car window, she was
on her side with her head on the armrest of the passenger side door.
I could see her face clearly, Her eyes were closed, and there was blood dripping from her mouth, and bottom lip onto the seat. Still I was in total disbelief.
Our other sister ran back into the house right away, and was calling me to come with her.
I stayed by the car window, pounding on the glass waiting for her move, or waiting for her to laugh because she fooled me again!
She did not move, or laugh.
Our father came out of the house, and broke the driver side window unlocked
the door and got inside the car, reached across Lori’s body to unlock the passenger side door, ran around the car as fast as he could, got in and picked her up to hold her.
Lori’s body lay across my fathers lap, and he just kept repeating
Why?
Our father came up to the house finally, blood full clothing, and hands, and said to me your sister is gone.
She had a open casket, I was not going to attend until a friend told me I should go say goodbye or I would regret it later.
So I went. I finally went up to the casket where her body lay.
All I could remember was the things she had said to me, and done those last weeks of her life. I was afraid, and confused to what had happened to her.
It just never made sense!
As I sat and looked across the room at her in the casket all I could think of was that this was not real. She was not Dead. She is pretending, etc.
Even though In reality I did know she was gone.
Just didn’t know why?!
*Lori did not drink,smoke, or do drugs-
We had no answers. No clues so we thought.
So for decades her sudden change, which followed to her sudden death remained “suspicious!”
THE NOTE SHE LEFT BEHIND SAID:
IT’S NOBODY’S FAULT, I JUST FLIPPED!
WITH A SMILEY FACE AT THE BOTTOM.
NOW..EVEN THE NOTE SHE LEFT BEHIND MAKES SENSE!….SHE DID FLIP, LOST HER MIND, HOWEVER, SHE DID NOT KNOW IT WAS DUE TO THE CONCEALED SIDE EFFECTS OF A PRESCRIPTION DRUG SHE TOOK FOR JUST A FEW SHORT WEEKS!!
Decades later the truth had surfaced!
Finally I was able to put it all together.
In 2009 I was going through my sister’s box of things I packed almost 28 years
ago off the top of her dresser.
I came across many things I remembered from the time… one which
included a medicine bottle.
We knew Lori was put on a medicine to help her with the stress of her divorce, so it was not a surprise to me that I packed the bottle.
Like I said we all knew she was taking something for anxiety.
Back then it was similar to taking a advil. No big deal. As long as a doctor gave you something it was
ok to take. Safe.
However..the shock came to me when I typed the name of the drug into
the computer just months ago.
Slowly it all started to come together, and I mean all of it!
As I read the side effects of the medication she was on, it all suddenly linked!
Including the things she said to the things she did, To the rocking in the chair to the things she was seeing that were not there, and finally to the flu like
symptoms that she was displaying shortly before she ended her life at the young age of 25.
Lori was put on this drug Aug. 18 1981.
SUDDENLY she was found dead on Sept. 22, 1981
I WAS 13 YEARS OLD- Just starting 8th grade that September (1981)
LORI WAS 25
HERE IS THE WARNING ON THIS SAME DRUG TODAY (2013)
Imipramine and Suicides: Suggestions
Your healthcare provider should monitor you (or your child) carefully when you are first starting an antidepressant.
You should also be watchful for any signs of suicidal behavior. Contact your healthcare provider right away if you (or your child) have any of the following:*Thoughts about death or *committing suicide
Suicide attempts
*Depression or anxiety that is new or worse
*Agitation, restlessness, or panic attacks
*Trouble sleeping (insomnia)
*Irritability that is new or worse
*Aggressive, angry, or violent behavior
*Acting on dangerous impulses
*Unusually increased talking or activity
*Akathisia
An analysis of a large clinical trial published in theBritish Journal of Psychiatry in 2008 estimated that up to 35 percent of people taking antipsychotic drugs experience akathisia.
Symptoms include:
- Fidgety movements*
- Leg swinging while sitting*
- Rocking from foot to foot or pacing*
- Motor restlessness; inability to sit still*
- Feelings of anxiety*
- Insomnia*
The combination of these symptoms and depression and impulsiveness may also contribute to aggression and suicide in some patients.
Other strange changes in mood or behavior.
(* I put a star next to every side effect she had!)
CLICK ON LINK BLACK BOX WARNINGS MUST READ (2004) LITTLE TO LATE FOR PEOPLE ALREADY LOST!
TODAY…WE HAVE COMMERCIALS WARNING PEOPLE OF THESE DANGERS..
TODAY…WE HAVE COMPUTERS SO YOU CAN DO YOUR OWN RESEARCH..
THEN.. WE HAD NOTHING!
SOME SAY MAYBE NO ONE KNEW BACK THEN? WELL THIS IS NOT TRUE! YOU WILL ALSO READ BELOW THE FACTS.
Pharmacosis:
* The first descriptions of a drug causing suicide came in 1955. A few years later in 1958 and again in 1959 the problem was described with imipramine.* Treatment induced suicide became a prominent media issue in 1990 with a paper by Teicher and Cole.
(MY SISTER DID NOT HAVE TO DIE!)*It was not until 2004 that regulators and companies conceded that these drugs can cause a problem.
** There are now 38 drugs!**
HOW MANY LIKE LORI HAD TO DIE BEFORE THESE WARNINGS WERE ISSUED? (NUMBERS NOT KNOWN BUT THEY ARE HUGE)
NOW WHAT? WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
MY INTENTION OF TELLING HER STORY IS NOT TO MAKE PEOPLE STOP, OR START TAKING MEDICATION, BUT TO RAISE AWARENESS ABOUT THE SIDE EFFECTS THAT THEY CARRY.
*If only someone came to my family, even after her sudden death, and said to us you know this is what “could” of happened.. It at least would of lifted “some” of the burden of suspicion.
Murder? vs. Suicide? Two different meanings all together!
HAD WE KNOWN THE CONCEALED SIDE EFFECTS OF IMIPRAMINE
MY SISTER WOULD BE ALIVE TODAY!
SHE DIED SUDDENLY ON SEPT. 22 1981TRAVEL BACK IN TIME WITH ME,
NOT KNOWING IT WAS THE LAST SUMMER I WOULD SPEND WITH MY SISTER LORI.
THE SEASON CHANGED TO FALL TIME,
IT WAS SEPTEMBER 22, 1981.
I WAS JUST STARTING 8TH GRADE.
WHEN SUDDENLY HORROR STRUCK,
AND ALL OF OUR LIVES WERE CHANGED FOREVER..
NOT KNOWING THE CONNECTION FOR ALMOST 3 DECADES WAS UNBEARABLE,
NOW THAT I DO KNOW, AND THE LINK HAS BEEN MADE… I AM SOMEWHAT LIFTED OF ALL THE FEELINGS I WAS HAVING
THROUGH THE YEARS..AND NOW THEY HAVE CHANGED TO ANGER, AND WANTING JUSTICE FOR HER!
WHAT WOULD DO?
STOP AND LISTEN TO EACH OF THE LINKS BELOW!
1991 FDA Hearing – Just 10 years after my Sister’s death…. just imagine
the total numbers of lives lost- decades before this
hearing took place (1981 Lori) as well as decades after …and it is still
happening Today!
EVEN WITH THOSE STORIES HEARD IN 1991.
FDA SIDED WITH THE DRUG COMPANIES! NO WARNINGS WERE ISSUED.
IT TOOK OVER ANOTHER DECADE IN “2004″ TO GET
THE BLACK BOX WARNINGS TO BE PLACED ON THESE Rx drugs!
There were 38 of them.. now I am sure the number is much higher!
Wow… 2013 Here we still are!
http://www.cbsnews.com/video/watch/?id=2261930n
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As I took a final walk down the driveway in 2011 at the house our father built for his family in 1970.
I remember the day so clearly in 1981 when our father broke the driver side window to get into the car where my sister’s body lay.
I stopped along the way, and went over to the far side, and ran my hand, and fingers though some of the grass.
Still there, after all these years were some pieces of glass, where the window had shattered to the ground, and were just left there to fade into the ground so long ago…
In 09 I was able to give our parents some kind of closure to Lori’s death, however, this in no way made up for the three plus decades of pain, and suffering they as parents had to endure.
Our Mother said: You mean she died because people had to be greedy, and make money?
Our Father said: It don’t matter now, because she is gone, and nobody will care!
WELL MY STORY IS NOW ONLINE, AND PEOPLE DO CARE, AND HOPEFULLY LIVES CAN BE SAVED BY READING HER STORY!
IN LOVING MEMORY OF MY SISTER… SHE MAY NOW AFTER ALMOST THREE DECADES REST IN PEACE.
I LOVE YOU.
A woman tracked me down, and sent me a “personal” special email, this was a nice surprise to me! This makes me happy, and gives me a sense of accomplishment, and peace,I now know that because of my sister’s story now being online… that she will now be remembered by others who knew her for who she was, and NOT for how she died, and what people think she did!(Rx induced suicide is/was NOT suicide) Facebook Group. Thank you Diane for these kind words below:
*I had the sorrowful joy of running into Lisa this week (online). I was searching (as I have done countless other times over the past 30+years) for information surrounding Lori’s death; always coming up empty-handed. Lori was and is exactly as Lisa describes her (for me, she was a personal source of inspiration I would always remember), so what I had heard happened to her just didn’t make sense. I thank Lisa with gratitude and sadness for what she has shared with me; with all of us. Sadness, because of the pain and loss she and her family all endured, needlessly. Joy, because now I have a truth that makes sense. Thanks to Lisa, Lori has her dignity back. Lisa, even if the death record always says what it says, we all know, thanks to you, the truth! And so too does God and that is what is most important! Diane
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your story made me cry, ive suffered from depression off and on for the last 7 yrs and now can say im happy without medication. im glad i never had to go threw anything like this. but it makes me sick to know that a drug to lethal to the mind and soul is still legal. its medical murder. no one should have to go threw this just because the doctors were to uneducated. and i think its fair if you took it one step further and sued the arses off them for this drug. when they knowingly keep making something so putrid.
nothing i say will bring your sister back for you, but i wish it could, she deserved a chance, and everyone has the right to be able to trust a doctor with their life, not ruin it.
i will always remember this story, xxx
I am so sorry for your loss and the devastation this has caused your family.I too am living the nightmare of suicide due to these evil drugs. My beautiful 24 year old daughter Samantha took her own life by hanging on July 31,2010. She had been on antidepressants for 3 mos. and started to show signs of the behaviors you mentioned that your sister had. She was hospitalized for 6 days but with the hippa laws we were not told how serious her condition was and of course she said she was okay but obviously was not. I truly believe Samantha did not consiously take her own life. She left us a note also stating that it wasn’t anyones fault and that no one could help her. When I informed her Dr and psychiatrist of her suicide they had no real profound reaction. It was as if they expected it. They should be forced to take them before they prescibe them and see how they feel.These drugs should be OFF the market.
I read your story and am appalled at what happened. I am now trying to taper off of Klonopin and am living through a nightmare. I am also on Prozac, but cannot even think of quitting this until I am through with the first withdrawal, which may take a long time. I am horrified by all this. Please tell me – who is Ann Blake-Tracy – I saw his name mentioned several times – is he still in practice? Where? I live in Phila area – if anyone knows of a doctor who can help with benzodiazepine tapers, I would appreciate it.
Lisa:
I am so sorry for your loss. No one should have to live the nightmare that you and your family have lived. I am so grateful for Ann Blake Tracy and her passion to bring these horrible drugs to the public attention.
I’m glad you have found this information and hope it gives you some sense of closure. Your sister was exactly the person you always thought she was. She wasn’t crazy and she didn’t make a conscious choice to end her life.
I have an uncle who was given antidepressants after his wife of 49 years passed away. Luckily I had Ann’s information prior to that time and got him off the drugs very quickly. He was already having suicidal dreams and horrible bloody nightmares.
Keep up the great work of spreading the word about these abominable drugs. Perhaps you can help save other families from suffering as yours has.
Live with passion and purpose (as your sister would have wanted),
Vanessa
I can relate to your story. I too became suicidal after using an anti-depressant. At the time all the doctor said was oh oh, we’ve let out a can of worms. When I asked what he meant, he said oh, just that. Now I know that medication ( I don’t remember the name of it) made my depression worse. I signed your petition and hope you can find peace at knowing you are doing all you can to make things right about your sisters death if that is possible.
Dear Lisa,
I, too, have read your story. I think it does an excellent job of recreating the horrors of living with someone on an SSRI. It is because of these kinds of stories and this kind of information that I have held so very firmly to no one forcing an SSRI on my son. I have benefited from you, people like you, and the work of Ann Blake-Tracy whose voice was the first I heard on the dangers of these drugs.
I would like for people to know that in my son’s entire 20 years of life, I have not had one person in our physical lives that has supported my resistance to these drugs even though I have shared the horrors that I have learned about them. Against my will, the police put my son in a psychiatric ward several years ago. I was threatened with child abuse if I did not allow them to drug my son even though again I pointed out the dangers of these drugs. Finally they said to me, “If you will not allow us to treat your son, then we must release him.” Well, finally! I didn’t want them to “treat” him anyway!!! What happened to that oath these doctors take about first doing no harm?
Years upon years ago, back in the mid 1970′s, I was given valium for a back problem. Within days I found myself with suicidal thoughts. Since this was unusual for me, I went looking for the side effects of this drug. There it was — could cause suicidal feelings. I stopped the valium immediately and told the doctor. He didn’t seem bothered or concerned at all.
I’m not sure what has happened with those we should be able to trust with our health, but nowadays if you do that, you may live, if you are lucky, to regret it.
My heart goes out to all those who have suffered as a result of this.
Blessings upon us all.
Author: Christa
Comment:
Lisa:
Thank you for contacting me, commenting on the post and forwarding the video.
Coming from someone who was medicated for years, I am also convinced many of the
medications I was prescribed led to suicidal thoughts and tendencies.
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your sister, Lori, to suicide. I commend
your determination to honor her memory and raise awareness about the dangers
surrounding RX drugs, children and violence.
With their losses (your sister and my friends) we learn, we grow and most
importantly, we learn to live the best lives we can, lives filled with laughter.
Ronda July 7, 2010 at 11:04pm
You should feel proud of what you are doing….I reposted your story on my facebook and asked everyone to repost, too. It is sooo sad that it took so long to have some answers. I know that doesn’t change the outcome for you but it might for so many others. Keep the faith my friend…..unfortunately things do happen for a reason and some day my hope for you is that you know that reason. I will say a prayer for you tonight.
Love,
Ronda
Jennu
“I am so sorry that you as a young girl had to see your sister pass that way I
only pray for you to God that you can come to some kind of closer but what I
heard I will never forget I hope you do write your book not only for your
beautiful sister whoes death was due to yet a nother Dr. who should have never
been able to be a Dr. but for you Lisa so you can get some kind of closer love
always Jennu”
Over here in England we still do not have a legal duty on our medics to tell us the truth Lisa. I have read your story. What many medical professionals do not understand is that not knowing is far worse, being lied to about proceudures going wrong or drug errors does not help at all. It makes things far worse. So many things in your head make no sense – your entire world is gone. I feel for you and your father. To be 13 years old and be faced with this is terrible.
Keep well
George
Hi, Lisa!
Looking to sign petition. To whom does it go?
You might consider imprecation.
Love in King Jesus,
Chuck
I am so sorry for your loss.
Dear Lisa,
Words can’t express how you must have felt – I am so sorry for your loss. I lost me older sister when she was 22 and I was 17, she had overdosed on ‘pinks’ – we will never know if she meant to or not. I have a twin sister too and I am blessed that she is still with me. She is diagnosed with bipolar nervous disorder, but the truth is that all the EST she had and all the different drugs she was on was because they did not know the real reason so decided to experiment on her. I am just so thankful I have her with me and through the grace of God, her health is okay.
My thoughts are with you,
Always – Nikki
I am so very sorry for your loss. What a hard thing for you to deal with as a young child. Your story is very touching and will help others. The story also shows how strong and caring you are. Your sister would be proud.
Dayna
Lisa I can hear your pain I can feel your cries inside I can sense the agony you hide I know your loss is deep and wide I know you rage and tear and cannot abide all these people millions and score being misdiagnosed and drugged–yes the statistics SOAR–as many turn to homicide, suicide, and more-I know you long to even the score and save many others from going through this revolving Hell Door-I pray for you and all the rest whose palpable pain leaves nothing to jest that you find peace and justice too and that others are saved from what these vile drugs do. –Peace and Love, csm.
Thank you for sharing. My son was put n this drug as a young teen-ager in the ’90s. It effectively ruined both of our lives. Thank the Lord he didn’t die. He complained of feeling like he was in pea-soup and couldn’t get out of bed. He just refused to take it any longer. He went through what I now know is withdrawal syndrome. At the time it was so unmanageable I (again) listened to the shrink and put him in an institution. What a nightmare. It is small wonder he doesn’t even speak to me anylonger. It just amazes me that with the internet superhighway (which I didn’t have then) people are still succumbing tot he comfort of a shrink and having their lives destroyed and wondering WHY? Thank you Lisa. And God Bless Ann Blake-Tracy.
I am SO tired of seeing commercials on TV pushing antidepressant drugs. How can people be so stupid as to IGNORE the warnings about sexual dysfunction, violence, and suicides apparently being caused by them? Not only that, but mothers and their babies are being “treated” with these toxic drugs with very sad results. Psychiatric drugs ruin lives.
Jodee Borgerding, Ohio
I had been put on many (over 40) different anti-depressant drugs do to depression. For 25 yrs. It would take 4-6 weeks to work, by then I was completely suicidal and had to be hospitalized! On each and every type I took! They say this only occurs in young adults, I disagree completely! I am “living” proof as an OLDER adult that they are BAD medicine. Dr. FINALLY put on my chart that I could not take them (after 25 yrs. of trying different things and many hospitalizations). I honestly believe that they are created to do exactly what they do do. MAKE people take thier life. Not one kind EVER helped me, only caused tremdous problems mentally and financially. It puts thousands of dollars in the pockets of Big Pharmacy and the DRs. who no longer practice with ETHICS. Its to line their wallets, no matter what the cost. Even your LIFE. Thank God I found a DR. who seen this and cared enough to put me on a completely different med. that has helped tremndously (after searching for 25 yrs). They tried to put my neice on one and I had to step in. She is now doing great with her family Dr. and the meds. he gives her, which, by the way, are NOT anti-depressants. Lives a completely normal life and did NOT while trying all of the anti-depressants they were feeding her. Seen it happen too many times. Its a gamble with your life that they are taking.